Coaching

Imagine your ideal life.

Now consider where you currently are.

As a coach I help you bridge that gap.

Working as a team you and I will explore what is holding you back from living your best life. Then we’ll develop strategies to address those obstacles. Finally, I’ll assist you in implementing those strategies so that your goals can become reality.

Coaching isn’t therapy, in that I won’t be giving you a mental health diagnosis. We won’t be focusing on deep emotional processing. We won’t be doing trauma work.

Instead, sessions will be highly structured and focused on your goals and how to achieve them. We’ll explore what is holding you back from a fulfilling life and then map out actionable steps to arrive there. I can assure you, however, that a benefit of my 15 years of experience as a therapist is that I have the skills to help you explore and modify the limiting beliefs that might be preventing you from living the kind of life you’d like to lead.

What I love about coaching is its combination of creativity, knowledge sharing and accountability. Together we can use our creative abilities to figure out ways to reach your goals that perhaps you haven’t considered before. I can also share with you the strategies and tools that will ensure success as you move forward. But perhaps most importantly, I will become your accountability partner. This is because we often hold ourselves back due to fear and  procrastination. As your coach, part of my job is to hold you accountable so that you avoid that kind of self-sabotage. By holding you responsible (in a supportive and compassionate way) for the action steps that will lead you to your goals, you are much more likely to achieve them.

Athletes have always used coaches to help them achieve their goals and live to their full potential. Why not utilize the same kind of relationship to improve the quality of your life?

As your coach, I can help you achieve success in the following areas:

Nerves

Speaking in front of a group. Going to an audition. Meeting new people. Performing on stage. Taking a test or an important exam.

There are so many situations that can make us feel nervous. The good news is that I can teach you the skills to manage your anxiety and instead feel relaxed and confident. This isn’t psychotherapy, as we won’t be delving into your past and you won’t receive a diagnosis. Rather, my methodology is psychoeducational. That is, I’ll be teaching you the latest research on anxiety reduction as well as showing you powerful ways to feel calm that you can practice with me personally and at home. These include mindfulness, breathing exercises, Emotional Freedom Technique, bilateral stimulation, nutritional strategies and more. We’ll develop an action plan for getting your nerves under control and then determine how to best implement it, in terms of accountability.

Peak Performance

Are you an actor, dancer, musician, athlete, public speaker or anyone else who has to perform under pressure?

If so, I can help you overcome the mental and emotional barriers that are keeping you from fulfilling your potential. This is because your mental game is the key to the results you want. It’s the key to your future. It’s the key to less stress and more fun doing what you love. The good news is that you can learn the psychological skills that will set you apart from your peers and elevate your performance. As your coach, I can help you manage performance anxiety, develop focused attention, excel under pressure, build confidence, easily enter “The Zone,” strengthen resilience, overcome self-sabotage, and avoid burnout. In short, I can help you achieve your goals as a performer and become the best possible version of yourself.

Relationships

Would you like to increase the connection you have with your partner? Work out conflicts that are eroding the love and trust you have for each other? Figure out how to communicate more effectively and avoid arguments? Recover from an affair? Bring the spark back that you both originally felt for each other?

As your coach, I can help you and your partner solve the problems that will impact the future of your relationship (this is especially helpful before marriage; I’m a big fan of premarital counseling). Using a directive, goal-driven style, I can help you and your partner learn the communication skills that will allow each of you to feel understood and validated; avoid the unhealthy dynamics that can sabotage a relationship, increase intimacy; identify and speak each other’s love language(s) and more. I can also assist you in evaluating your relationship to determine whether you should continue or end it.

Growing up, nobody teaches us how to be in a successful relationship. We learn about them from watching our parents. So how can we avoid any mistakes that they might have made? The fact is that there are proven strategies and tools that will help your relationship thrive. As a relationship coach, my joy is being able to share those with you. After all, don’t you deserve a relationship that brings out the best in you?

Writing

“There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.” (attributed to Ernest Hemmingway)

Are you a writer, professor, or graduate student who is having trouble starting (or finishing) that book or article? Do you get bogged down in the writing process? Do you feel less than motivated about a writing project that you know in your heart would be beneficial, either personally or professionally?

As the author of 7 books (one released by an academic publisher, the others self-published), several peer-reviewed academic articles, and countless other on-line and print pieces, I am intimately familiar with the process of beginning and finishing writing projects.

With me in your corner, I can help you organize your ideas, create a writing schedule, and then develop an accountability system that will ensure your project gets done. I can empower you to overcome writer’s block and teach you how to avoid sabotaging yourself. Creating a written work can be a daunting task. Not only is there is the production side but also the fact that you are making yourself vulnerable by putting your work out into the world for people to consume (and judge). With coaching, you can learn how to face your fears and feel energized about the work you are doing. After all, if you’ve got a book or article in you, why not write it and see what happens?

Work/Life Balance

Do you feel like you have no life outside of work? Are you exhausted? Burned out? Stressed out? Resentful? Do you wish you could spend more time with family and friends? Or on a hobby? But instead feel torn between different priorities?

As your coach, I can help you develop the skills to alleviate stress, manage your time better, increase your productivity and add more “life” to the work/life equation. I can also assist you in creating the personal boundaries you need to be the protagonist of your life rather than be at its mercy. Sometimes a total life makeover is called for – and I can be your guide and cheerleader as you embark on that journey.

Mindfulness

Interested in a developing a mindfulness practice but not sure where to start? Or do you already have one but are having trouble maintaining it?

There is a wealth of scientifically proven benefits to having a mindfulness practice. It improves emotional regulation, focus and concentration. It reduces anxiety and depression. It alleviates stress, insomnia, chronic pain and high blood pressure. I could go on…

But the key is first understanding exactly what “mindfulness” entails. Then finding a mindfulness practice that is right for you – and sticking with it. As your coach I can walk you through those steps. As a life skill, mindfulness is an excellent investment. It is truly life-changing: Physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

Life Transitions

Are you going through a divorce? Getting ready to retire? Considering a new career? Experiencing a “mid-life crisis”? These can be difficult crossroads in our lives. They can also be opportunities for growth.

As your coach, I can help you navigate your transition so that it’s meaningful rather than simply stressful. I can help you clarify your vision for the next chapter of your life, so that you’ll be able to move forward with ease and confidence. By tapping into your creativity, gaining insight about your purpose and passions, and receiving gentle accountability, you’ll create the road map to a fulfilling future.

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Coaching sessions are $65 per hour. We can meet in person, over Skype or on the phone. I offer a free 20 minute phone consult in order to determine whether we are good fit. Contact me today by phone (540-819-0429) or email (andymatzner@gmail.com) to set up an appointment!