Therapy

Are you tired of people-pleasing?

Saying “Yes,” when you really mean “No”?

Avoiding conflict?

Meeting other people’s needs at the expense of your own?

If this at all resonates with you, I imagine that growing up, no one taught you how to create and maintain healthy boundaries. You learned that making people upset was dangerous. Disappointing others was to be avoided. And so you began lying. Telling people what you thought they wanted to hear, instead of feeling comfortable enough to tell the truth.

Anything you do for yourself makes you feel guilty, because it means you’re being “selfish.”

And so your focus is on others.

But your relationships always seem to end up one-sided. You give way more than you receive. You pay attention to the important people in your life, but it feels like they aren’t really paying much attention to you and your needs.

Who wouldn’t feel exhausted? Burned-out? Overwhelmed? Angry? Resentful? Discouraged?

It doesn’t have to be this way.

Knowledge is power, and I have almost two decades’ worth of tools and strategies to share with you.

Working together as a team, you and I will explore the roots of your people-pleasing. Based on what we find, we’ll create an action plan: a road map from where you currently are to where you want to end up.

You’ll discover how to set and maintain healthy boundaries and feel comfortable saying “No.” You’ll learn how to stop feeling guilty about expressing your own needs, and avoid believing that it’s the end of the world if someone is upset or disappointed with you.

Leaving behind the world of people-pleasing means connecting to the courage to be honest with yourself and others. It means developing your self-esteem and self-love. It also means stepping into your authentic self. And it’s about time…

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I’m an eclectic therapist, which means I am not bound to only one way of doing things. I’m open to anything that has the potential of helping you become the best version of yourself.

My goal is to offer you a safe space in which to heal. As such, it is important to note that I am trained in EMDR, and all of my work is trauma-informed. I am also LGBTQ-affirming, kink/BDSM-friendly, poly/ethical non-monogamy-friendly, feminist-oriented and sex-positive.

Therapy sessions are sixty minutes, take place over Zoom, and cost $85. Because I have a small practice, I do not take insurance.

To set up a free fifteen minute video call to see if we would be a good fit, please contact me by email: andymatzner@gmail.com or phone: 540-819-0429.

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